My Secret Life

Do you eat secretly? You know what I mean. The eating you do when no one's looking. When no one's around. It’s the popcorn and the chips you stuff in your mouth while you’re watching television. We secretly think it doesn’t really count because no one saw us do it. Right?

The Moment I Realized
We all do it. I haven’t met anyone yet who doesn’t secretly eat? What makes us do it? Do we really think we can get away with it? Like it’s not going to show up eventually on our belly or our butt. This is the story of my life. When I turned 14, I reached my final height of 5’2” and that was also the moment when I first saw cellulite on my thighs. It was quite a moment. It was the moment that I realized that I had to watch what I ate or else . . . This was the beginning of my deep relationship with food ~ good or bad.

Why Do We Have to Talk About It?
I have often thought to myself why do we even have to talk about food. Why is this an issue? Why do we have to put so much energy into managing our weight? I hate it! I really hate that I have spend any time thinking about food and managing my weight. During my cancer recovery, I lost 25 pounds with little effort. It just fell off because of the constant nausea from chemotherapy. Inevitably, my taste buds returned as well as the cravings and the weight gain. And the vicious cycle began again.

A Relationship with Our Body

What I know now that I didn’t realize years ago is that successful weight loss is really about forming a relationship with your body, not with food. It’s about honoring and respecting your magnificient body and all that it does for you. It’s about feeding your body foods it can actually use and keeping your body continually hydrated with plenty of water. I used to stuff my emotions down by eating all kinds of high calorie sweet foods. I ate when I felt fearful, sad, angry, and depressed. I even ate when I felt joy, happiness, and surprise. Repressing my emotions was the catalyst to my secret eating. I wrote about this part of my recovery in my book Transformation: Creating an Exceptional Life in the Face of Cancer.

Break Through the Emotional Repression
In my coaching practice, I work with clients that are recovering from divorce, widowhood, retirement, empty nest and major illness. All of these life events trigger strong emotions in us. Some of us will secretly eat, secretly drink, secretly gamble, or secretly find some other means to deal with the flood of our emotions. Before we can transform our life and create something better, we must work out the emotion which is keeping us stuck and driving our secret life. Does this resonate with you? If you're ready to finally break through your old patterns, then click here to schedule a complimentary discovery coaching session with me.